When it comes to a relationship, we often realize that the 'attachment' takes a bigger role than feeling of 'affection' itself. But the funny thing is, you just happen to feel attached to some people just by keep seeing each other. Unconciously, this feeling often turns into more of an affectionate feeling which we refer to as 'love'. If we think more deeply of these words another word pops up which fits nicely in between these words and it is 'amiable disposition'. But most of the time, you aren't too sure what the your opponent has to offer you. So! What are we supposed to do when this happens to us?
Just meet up and share conversations with the person who you think has something towards you and someone who you feel there's something you have towards him/her. If the person gives you short answers to every question you ask, unless that has to do with his/her personality, you can start to assume that this person has no interest in you. It is recommended that you DONT make yourself feel better by just saying, 's/he probably is hiding his/her feeling because s/he is shy.'
There are some people who suddenly makes straight/frowning faces whenever you show up. There's two possibilities. Whether the person in front of you
Check up on their moves? Well, not in a stalkerish way. This is just a technique that one of my friend uses. When having a meal or drinking a tea with the person, if the person drinks water/tea at the same time you drink water/tea, they definately have something for you. Sounds like a simple coincidence? According to a friend, towards the person you are interested in, you keep watching their every move. Therefore, unconciously, you see yourself copying their every move. It's a theory that sounds pretty convincing, so I use this technique every so often myself. BUT! there are always possibilities that this person could just simply be thirsty all the time.
I read it in some book that a person who's really good at fighting is not someone
who's good at making a beating, but someone who is not afraid to be hit.
I think it is same for relationship. Which side are you on?
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Jenn :D 2008/09/15 07:53 Modify/Delete Reply Address
i like this blog that you did :D the pictures are so colorful and pretty too.. but when i was reading this.. i could notice a lot of these happening before.. like.. the facial expressions.. lol.. you can tell when the person doesn't want to talk to you from the first impression that you would get from them.. like if they make a stink face.. or happy face :D.. and about the copying.. i think i do that without me even knowing >.< like un-consciously.. lol.. :D but i think that they are true.. it's kind of scary though.. because you have a easier feeling when the person is kind of rejecting you.. or does like you too.. but.. you never know what will happen ^^..
ShaiZer 2008/09/15 09:46 Modify/Delete Address
^-^.. took me awhile to write this haha :].. bawt yeh.. there are more than just these three in figuring out how people feel about you, but i guess these are the most common ones that you can use to notice these things. i mean it'd be way easier for you, like you said, if you kinda have an idea of what they want out of you, but often, they don't really tell you these things. So, best of your ability, you have to figure out how to find out these things :]. Well.. there are lots of people out there who also uses something like this, so try to be as least expected as you can possibly be :] ganbate jenn! :]
ray 2008/09/27 06:09 Modify/Delete Reply Address
wow! it seems like you have a whole new take on your blog. it's pretty cool, i like it! :-D but really interesting stuff there, it's true. :-)
ShaiZer 2008/10/03 08:43 Modify/Delete Address
hey, thanx mang. i try haha.. i try.. i'll try to keep up the good work :]
Jaecie 2008/11/19 06:33 Modify/Delete Reply Address
Yea I agree with the part that says the more you see them the more attached you are to them. Well I learned that in Psychology ^^; That explains the Beauty and the Geek factor
By seeing someone a lot you form more of a strong bond with a person. And haha I have had those short answer kinds of things before. Just trying to bring up a convo with someone and then all I get is a yes/no answer then akward silence -_-;; Lol about the facial expressions tho. Everyone must think you hate them since you always give them a evil look when they see you. Haha jus joke 
I don't know if I ever noticed the copying what you do thing tho... Maybe I am jus not paying attention ^^; I think I will try and spot that out from now on haha. If I remember... Anyways good blog. Kinda short tho haha there is only 3 things. You usually make a list of things. Ran out of ideas? ^^;
ShaiZer 2008/11/20 10:51 Modify/Delete Address
mm.. well i tried to go on with the list, but there were certain things that i just couldn't explain.. things that you just have to know it yourself.. you know.. things that you can only learn by experience.. well i guess thats what relationship is kind of about.. things that you have to go through to know. It's not something that you can just catch on by reading ^^