To be honest, it took me hours in thinking whether this topic is humane to even deal with and if I chose to write it, how can I make this persuasive or just right. I think it's ironic how I thought of this topic whether or not it has anything to do with me.

I. First things first! What's most important?

When one starts to like a girl who already has a boyfriend..
These are the topics that you would most likely to get advised by your friends..

1) How's her relationship with her boyfriend?
2) So, there she is. Do you have any chance with her?
3) Let's pretend she's all yours. What are your plans? [What now?]
4) How will you be able to turn her heart?
5) What are the possible risk when fail?
6) Everyone's position in what's wrong and what's right.

However...
There are things that are even more important than all of these above.
I've asked couple of my friends about this topic and they had listed some of these
topics on above, but like others, they are most likely to forget this major point.

Most important point is "desperation"
And the 2nd one is "The confidence that you can make this person happier from where she is now"

Are you desperate enough, even to be truthful to your own emotion..
Or is it just because "she's pretty hot", "I feel lonely on weekends", or "What do I have to lose?"
What I'm trying to say is that,
Without desperation that she is the only one for you, there shouldn't even be a start.
If this is where you are heading [w/o desperation], you are just being disrespectful to her.

With desperation, if you have what it takes to be the one*, try and think about
Whether you have the ability to make her happier from where she is now.
In fact, you may not even be sure of how her relationship is with her boyfriend, but the most important
thing in this is the fact that you had taken this in consideration and had at least thought about it.
Because your action is based on your thoughts and what you consider of.

With these two points, you don't take account of the damage that you get from failing.
If you had already thought about pain received from failing, it means that you aren't "desperate".

when I take account of my past experiences, I would only have a fear that "this may be my only
chance in seeing this girl" and not "What if I get rejected". That's the kind of desperation that we
look for when in a relationship.

II. Questions without answers

Unless the girl speaks for herself that she's having a hard time with her boyfriend,
you can't assume where she's standing in her relationship. As for examples, rumors or gossips
that others say of her and her boyfriend's relationship are not valid.

Therefore, there is no real chance that you can calculate chances that this person will come to you.

III. Being a person she needs without having to burden

Are you desperate? Are you confidence?
Then be a person who she must have, a person she needs.

IV. Trust

This is where trust comes in and your patience.

So you fullfilled her needs and became the person who
she even left her boyfriend for. Should you be happy now?

The answer is 'No'.

Even if this girl may not remember, you do. She left her boyfriend for
someone new. And your head is telling you that this can also happen to you.
With this suspicion in your head, would you really be able to have the love of your life?

Suspicion and doubt are ways to failure.

So, you need trust and patience.

V. DONZO!

To be straight forward, its your desperation towards the girl you like, and patience for the right timing that will lead you to success. If you can't do these two things, I would rather have you tell me that you are giving up.

Ps. I personally thought this blog entry would turn out to be way much more better than what it had actually came out to be. But.. I gues not..