ShaiZer's Everyday Life

11 Problems in "Single Men"

(ShaiZer) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:33:04 +0000

1. He does not know what he's doing wrong.

He has no idea why he's not popular among women.
This is a pretty big problem that most of "single men" have.
You have to figure out the problem and start out by solving them.
Problems could be as simple as, not being humorous, being timid, avoiding
eye contacts, etc...

2. Timidity

No women will just show up randomly and ask you out on a date.
Women, in most cases, are more timid than men.
There may be no guarantees that brave men will get the women,
but one thing for sure! Timid men will definately not get ANY women.

3. Conversation

Unless you have the facial characteristics of celebrities or have talents, such as dancing, that is at pro status, if you are not good at building up conversations, you get a big "L" on your head.
Learn to build up conversations.

There are lots of ways in doing this.
One of the most recommended ways is to get a hold of your friend who
is popular among women. "Not the ones who swears in every other words"
Be around him/her and observe the way they talk.

Most important point in this is how they are bringing up the humor within themselves in order to carry on with their conversation.

&& Don't Ever Swear in front of women. Its a big No No!

4. Make eye contacts

Women will think guys who avoid eye contacts are not interested in them.
Make eye contacts. Look into women's eyes and read their facial expressions.
If you can't read their mind, you also can't win their heart.
Look into their eyes and read their mind within their expressions.

Stop staring at their boobs, they will be stunned and a bit freaked out.

5. "I'll be the nicest boyfriend!"

First, You don't have to be the nicest man in Earth to get a women.
Just treat her like no other.

You may be ready and have your mind set. But what you might not notice is that
women can also read your minds by looking into your eyes.
If you are shooting out a beam that says "I'm a freak",
they will be a bit creeped out by you and do not want to be anywhere around you. Let's not be a little freak who beams out freakish eye contacts.

6. Empty your minds

Let me be straight forward. Newbies are weak in making decisions.
You maybe brave and are good in making conversation,
but women can see your black-heart by looking into your eyes.

You might look like a wolf aiming for a lone sheep.

Empty your mind and treat her comfortably.
It will be much easier to get closer to her.

7. Key Points

Be a Man! There are guys who just can't go any further
than being just as a friend.
The reason for this is because they tried to stand as
Neutral and not as a Man.

From time to time, you have to show women your manly sex appeals.

There are lots of ways to show that you are a real man.
But making decision in the right time and leading
in physical skinship may also be ones to consider.

Most important thing is the 'Timing'
Right timing first comes from experiences,
and secondly from grasping the person.
(But don't be a pervert, Learn to reach out when the other person want.)

8. Don't be always in a favor to all women.

Who doesn't like kind men?
But there's only one person that you should be kind to.

By being kind to others, you may leave a favorable impression,
but you may also lose that impression from the person you want to win over.

Dating is an 1:1 battle. It's hard getting into a relationship if you try to win over
multiple ppl's heart.

9. Too serious

Don't ever be too serious about relationship.
meet up with the person lightly. if they back up, be patient and wait for them.
if they come out, go out just a little bit more.
If you follow them when they are backing up, you become a stalker.

Losen your shoulders and meet up with a person lightly.
There eventually are going to be moments when you really have to be serious.

Until then, save up your seriousness.

10. Realize the difference in between Men & Women

If you really care, study. What's love and what makes complications.
if you treat a woman jus like how you treat your guy friends,
you may fall into a hole that you might not be able to come back out.

11. Build experiences & don't make same mistakes

If you want to get into a relationship, building experiences are your best options.
To be very honest, even if I tell you all these stuff, if you haven't experienced these stuff it's all for nothing.

If you can't learn to share eye contacts and realize something from her two eyes, you are done for.

It's somewhat like riding a bicycle. One you get a hang of it, it's not too hard, but if you haven't had a chance to ride it, you have no idea how the whole thing works. Instead of reading the guide over and over, one experience in riding it may actually help more.

Now it's your turn to get out there and pimp out your skills :]

Relationship with a girl who has a boyfriend...

(ShaiZer) — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 11:39:25 +0000

To be honest, it took me hours in thinking whether this topic is humane to even deal with and if I chose to write it, how can I make this persuasive or just right. I think it's ironic how I thought of this topic whether or not it has anything to do with me.

I. First things first! What's most important?

When one starts to like a girl who already has a boyfriend..
These are the topics that you would most likely to get advised by your friends..

1) How's her relationship with her boyfriend?
2) So, there she is. Do you have any chance with her?
3) Let's pretend she's all yours. What are your plans? [What now?]
4) How will you be able to turn her heart?
5) What are the possible risk when fail?
6) Everyone's position in what's wrong and what's right.

However...
There are things that are even more important than all of these above.
I've asked couple of my friends about this topic and they had listed some of these
topics on above, but like others, they are most likely to forget this major point.

Most important point is "desperation"
And the 2nd one is "The confidence that you can make this person happier from where she is now"

Are you desperate enough, even to be truthful to your own emotion..
Or is it just because "she's pretty hot", "I feel lonely on weekends", or "What do I have to lose?"
What I'm trying to say is that,
Without desperation that she is the only one for you, there shouldn't even be a start.
If this is where you are heading [w/o desperation], you are just being disrespectful to her.

With desperation, if you have what it takes to be the one*, try and think about
Whether you have the ability to make her happier from where she is now.
In fact, you may not even be sure of how her relationship is with her boyfriend, but the most important
thing in this is the fact that you had taken this in consideration and had at least thought about it.
Because your action is based on your thoughts and what you consider of.

With these two points, you don't take account of the damage that you get from failing.
If you had already thought about pain received from failing, it means that you aren't "desperate".

when I take account of my past experiences, I would only have a fear that "this may be my only
chance in seeing this girl" and not "What if I get rejected". That's the kind of desperation that we
look for when in a relationship.

II. Questions without answers

Unless the girl speaks for herself that she's having a hard time with her boyfriend,
you can't assume where she's standing in her relationship. As for examples, rumors or gossips
that others say of her and her boyfriend's relationship are not valid.

Therefore, there is no real chance that you can calculate chances that this person will come to you.

III. Being a person she needs without having to burden

Are you desperate? Are you confidence?
Then be a person who she must have, a person she needs.

IV. Trust

This is where trust comes in and your patience.

So you fullfilled her needs and became the person who
she even left her boyfriend for. Should you be happy now?

The answer is 'No'.

Even if this girl may not remember, you do. She left her boyfriend for
someone new. And your head is telling you that this can also happen to you.
With this suspicion in your head, would you really be able to have the love of your life?

Suspicion and doubt are ways to failure.

So, you need trust and patience.

V. DONZO!

To be straight forward, its your desperation towards the girl you like, and patience for the right timing that will lead you to success. If you can't do these two things, I would rather have you tell me that you are giving up.

Ps. I personally thought this blog entry would turn out to be way much more better than what it had actually came out to be. But.. I gues not..

First Crush

(ShaiZer) — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:23:10 +0000

One late night, I came across reading one of my ol' best buddy's blog which dealt with his first crush. A really long blog entry that just kept me reading. Although I knew it was time for be to hit the hay, I was still up on by the computer, thinking about MY* first crush. I gave it a thought, up to the point where time went beyond when I had been thinking was the first time I had a first crush. More likely, a first love. Because it was at an age where you don't quite remember what really happened and not know for sure if that was the feeling that you had, I still felt a bit confused.

Everyone that I know, remembers and thinks that I had my very first crush during middle school if not in elementary when I first moved to Hawaii. But there's a little history to where I left off. I should say, a time when no one here knows what I've been through and been doing. Because it was such a long time ago, I too don't remember much.

It all took place in Korea. When I just started elementary school. I predict it to be around the year 1994-5. I met a girl who lived not too far away from where I lived. She was a cute little girl who had a smile of an angel (Maybe this is why I started to like girls with nice smiles; I mean who wouldn't). I recall being a normal kid who wasn't as smart nor as athletic at the time. As few girls might have liked me, I wasn't much interested in girls either. As I spent same old normal days through elementary, I met her through group of friends and somehow, we both started to share this common feeling for one another. Everytime i needed to be in a group, i was in with her and wasn't afraid to be teased that I was grouped with a girl.

Whether you believe it or not, the first girl i liked, liked me back. It's really hard to have that all worked out. However, because as shy as I've been all my life, I wasn't able to ask her out, and we never really had a chance to be a couple (but most of the class noticed that we liked each other).

There was also this time when I didn't do my homework and the teacher was punishing us. I am not sure whether our teacher was trying to punish me and my fellow slackers or the girls, but after she's stick a piece of tape onto our faces, she made the chosen girls to take the tapes off of us with their lips. I really had nothing to lose (and thought i should do this more often). But was it a faith? the girl of my first crush was the chosen girl for me. As others screamed in pain of having their tapes taken off of their face by the girls whom i thought was "eww", I stood there with a tiny smile. The girl's small lips came onto my face. As her lips touched my cheeks, i thought a volt of electricity went through my entire body. She missed a couple time (although i'm not sure if that was such a hard thing to do). After her second try, she finally got the tape off and we were both sent back to our assigned seats. With a smile on my face, I spent the rest of the day in a good mood.

However, our time together didn't last very long. After a Good year or two, my parents had decided to immigrate to US. To Hawaii to be exact. As a little kid who thought he was going on a small trip, wasn't able to say good-bye to his first crush, first love. And time passed on. fourth grade, fifth grade... I did meet lots of other girls here and learned the language that i never spoke before and the memory of her slowly faded.

On the year of 2002, my entire family took a trip back to Korea. It was amazing how my mother was still in contact with all the parents of my old friends. And we all met up again. As little more grown up. And there she was. The girl who taught me the feeling of butterflies in stomach. But, things didn't go too well with our relationship. As time has made everything awkward, i wasn't able to talk to her much. I was even too shy to ask her how she was. Just like that, a month in Korea passed by and I left my home country once more.

Then, the memory of her faded again under time...

elementary, intermediate, high school. Even through these 3 stages in my life, I buried her under my heart and never brought her up. And now in college, as a 19 year old grown up mature adult, I dare myself to bring her up in my head...

As she is my very first crush... my very first love...

Boa - Eat You Up [MV]

(ShaiZer) — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 10:53:08 +0000

Imeem

Youtube

So, Boa has done it again. Her agency had released on Boa's new music video, 'Eat You Up'. I must say, I'm quite impressed with what they had done with her, especially her dancing. It's probably well-known to everyone that she's a great singer, but also a great dancer. It was just a matter of time she came under the US market. She has been showing great success stories throughout Asia and hopefully she will do well in new challenges. 'Eat You Up' has previously been developed through two versions, for Asian & US, but I believe the 2nd version of her music video didn't show much of an effort. I started to question if the agency hasn't started being so cheap with her. Anyways, I wish her a great success, and enjoy the song guys :]

Interest in Computer Application

(ShaiZer) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 09:45:23 +0000

With an interest to Web Applications & programming, over last couple of weeks, i had looked into C++ and VB codes and often found great codes that i could be using one day. However, was my passion too weak? i could not go beyond scrapping codes. I needed inspiration. Only thing i could possibly do, other than scrapping was probably making websites. A website that could continuously remind me what i was trying to do. So i did...

Above image is one of the sites i made. Guruin. Guru means an intellectual or spiritual guide or leader. Also, any person who counsels or advises; mentor or a leader in a particular field. With various of codes that this site can provide to future programmers, Guruin was opened.

http://guruin.com

This is the new banner which was designed during my Math Lecture class in UHM. One morning, an idea popped up on my head. What if i jus simply connected the letters into one word without the spaces in between? and so i did. :] it worked better than i had imagined. Although the 1st and 2nd U's were embedded in between letters, it actually looked pretty good. but it was still somewhat empty. So i added in a huge [dot] and [com] :]. And taha~.

I will continuously update the codes that i come across and i hope it will help not only for me, but others who are interested in this field as well. If you are really interest in something and can't really afford to get a tutor or cram places where you could learn these techniques or skills, i recommend you try to learn it on your own through internet :]. it jus may worth your time :]

Addictive Korean Music Videos

(ShaiZer) — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:26:34 +0000

For today's blog entry, I'm going to introduce to you, a few Korean Music Videos or Songs those I find very addictive. There are redundant parts where they kept repeating the lyrics, and I happened to find them very addictive in most parts. So here are the videos

1. Son DamBi - Crazy ft. eric

2. Wonder Girls - No Body ft. jyp

3. Brown Eyed Girls - EoJjeoDa (How)

Being sick

(ShaiZer) — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:50:23 +0000

For the last couple days, I've been sick and I still am. It first came down to me with a sore throat. Not expecting much or for it to last, I tried to sleep it off after havin one 'emergencies', the powdery substance that disolves in water. The next day, came with pain in the throat. The dry throat kept me bothered for the entire day up until i had taken pills. Then i fell asleep again. once i woke up, i felt a bit better. the throat pain was gone, but was still a bit dizzy.

To shake it all off, i went off to the YMCA with my brother. Worked out for a good two hours and came home. Thought it'd be over by then. But, it was still far off from being done. I started having trouble with my nose. it came to where i couldn't breathe through my nose anymore. after taking pills, i fell onto the bed.

The next day. still no sign for this to be over with. i'm still sick.. and noticing that i'd losen up with blogging, i came to randomly rant out and cover up the days i've been missin out for..

and tomorrow i'm back tew working.. hope this is all over by then. until next time.. see y'all

The reasons why daughters need a father

(ShaiZer) — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 11:17:32 +0000

Daughters Need a Father Who...

1. can give them belief that everything's going to be alright.

2. sacrifices himself in order to prevent daughter's sacrifices.

3. can teach them that there's something more important than
just the way people looks; value of life.

4. are there to smile at ~~their kids~~ them,
and give them hugs and kisses whenever they are in need.

5. make sure that their daugthers always have 'home' and 'family' that they can always return to.

6. the family can really trust and depend on.

7. instead of punishment for mistakes, make sure they learn something out from it.

8. teaches that everyone deserves and have rights to be treated equally.

9. teaches to tolerate the difference in all beings,
and take responsible for every actions and its results as well as making decision upon it.

10. teaches how to be the one to take over one's heart.

11. are able to tell them that they are most beautiful person in the world.

12. protect them from the dark,
   and who gives answers to their worries.

13. can ease their complexed problems,
   and make ~~for them~~ their, pains into experiences.

14. ~~teaches the importance of family~~ puts family before anything.

15. turns anything/anywhere into a safezone.

16. can stand as a set example when choosing their men.

17. who may not always be with them, but who still influence them.

18. always makes sure that no one is useless.
   and walks his way through with them as they are lost in paths.

19. who can carry them to bed every night.

20. encourage them when they need to take risks in life.

To Be Continued...

I want to know! Does s/he have feeling for me?!

(ShaiZer) — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 11:02:25 +0000

When it comes to a relationship, we often realize that the 'attachment' takes a bigger role than feeling of 'affection' itself. But the funny thing is, you just happen to feel attached to some people just by keep seeing each other. Unconciously, this feeling often turns into more of an affectionate feeling which we refer to as 'love'. If we think more deeply of these words another word pops up which fits nicely in between these words and it is 'amiable disposition'. But most of the time, you aren't too sure what the your opponent has to offer you. So! What are we supposed to do when this happens to us?

1. Just meet up

Just meet up and share conversations with the person who you think has something towards you and someone who you feel there's something you have towards him/her. If the person gives you short answers to every question you ask, unless that has to do with his/her personality, you can start to assume that this person has no interest in you. It is recommended that you DONT make yourself feel better by just saying, 's/he probably is hiding his/her feeling because s/he is shy.'

2. Check up on facial expressions

There are some people who suddenly makes straight/frowning faces whenever you show up. There's two possibilities. Whether the person in front of you ~~feels something that is beyond amiable disposition~~ is just in love with you, or they just simply hate your guts. In this case, if a person seem to not pay attention to you or make bored faces, you can pretty much conclude that this person hates you.

3. Check up on them whether they copy your moves

Check up on their moves? Well, not in a stalkerish way. This is just a technique that one of my friend uses. When having a meal or drinking a tea with the person, if the person drinks water/tea at the same time you drink water/tea, they definately have something for you. Sounds like a simple coincidence? According to a friend, towards the person you are interested in, you keep watching their every move. Therefore, unconciously, you see yourself copying their every move. It's a theory that sounds pretty convincing, so I use this technique every so often myself. BUT! there are always possibilities that this person could just simply be thirsty all the time.

I read it in some book that a person who's really good at fighting is not someone
who's good at making a beating, but someone who is not afraid to be hit.
I think it is same for relationship. Which side are you on?

First week through University

(ShaiZer) — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 10:34:50 +0000

Here we go again, with the most randomest blog entries that I can ever think of. So this time, its about my new school :] University of Hawaii @ Manoa Campus. I often call it 'Harvard of Hawaii' just to make myself feel better for the fact that this is the only place I applied [how stupid].

Well, so! let's start up this blog! :]. Alright.. so I'm an Electrical Engineering Major, and planning on Japanese Minor. As I've written in my earlier blog entry, [http://blog.netwy.net/tc/entry/University-of-Hawaii-NSO-New-Student-Orientation] I'm not that interested in my major (did I even write this?). As far as I know, electrical engineering is one of the hardest major in ALL UNIVERSITIES. And guess what :]?! I was a fool to be the one to take it ^-^. Smart? or not so smart.

Then, it goes to my minor :], Japanese. It sure sounds good. I mean, isn't it? Being able to speak other languages and hopefully next time you visit that country, you don't have to be depended on either your friends or your guide! But guess what? My professor can't speak english. This is "THE SHITTIEST FEELING" that I've gotten this entire year. As I was hoping that I wouldn't regret my choice, I had already hit the ground on my very first day in UH(University of Hawaii).

Let's not forget about Math class. It's in a BIG lecture room with a huge black boards and 2 projector screens :] how sweet! even better, with a professor who looks like a turtle :]. I just had to take five in order to ROFL at myself for not being able to make into Calculus (and having to be stuck with him). My assistant teacher wasn't so bad though. He was kind of like DR. IDA, (former math teacher) but with more hair and little confusion with his sexuality. Other than that, he was great.

OMG! Psychology. One of the classes that I was eager to take! :]. However, I came to realize that our classes are cancelled until our 3rd week. I learned it the hard ways though. I sat in an empty class with fellow students who were lost with me. For about 10 minutes, we sat there and talked, waiting for our teacher. And whether it's a He or She, didn't show up. As impatient as I could be, I was the first one to walk out of that class (didn't have anyone that I was interested in :]).

Well, these are all my classes with short details for each :]. I'm still trying to get used to this whole university thing, but as far as I've been through, there's really no difference with high school. College just have more time to manage, and I guess one needs to be able to learn how to keep it organized. And until we are notified of Midterms and Finals, we are pretty much free-souls :]. I will continue to write whatever comes on the way and keep you guys informed.

ROCK ON KIDS! :]