ShaiZer's Everyday Life ::

When it comes to a relationship, we often realize that the 'attachment' takes a bigger role than feeling of 'affection' itself. But the funny thing is, you just happen to feel attached to some people just by keep seeing each other. Unconciously, this feeling often turns into more of an affectionate feeling which we refer to as 'love'. If we think more deeply of these words another word pops up which fits nicely in between these words and it is 'amiable disposition'. But most of the time, you aren't too sure what the your opponent has to offer you. So! What are we supposed to do when this happens to us?

1. Just meet up

Just meet up and share conversations with the person who you think has something towards you and someone who you feel there's something you have towards him/her. If the person gives you short answers to every question you ask, unless that has to do with his/her personality, you can start to assume that this person has no interest in you. It is recommended that you DONT make yourself feel better by just saying, 's/he probably is hiding his/her feeling because s/he is shy.'

2. Check up on facial expressions

There are some people who suddenly makes straight/frowning faces whenever you show up. There's two possibilities. Whether the person in front of you ~~feels something that is beyond amiable disposition~~ is just in love with you, or they just simply hate your guts. In this case, if a person seem to not pay attention to you or make bored faces, you can pretty much conclude that this person hates you.

3. Check up on them whether they copy your moves

Check up on their moves? Well, not in a stalkerish way. This is just a technique that one of my friend uses. When having a meal or drinking a tea with the person, if the person drinks water/tea at the same time you drink water/tea, they definately have something for you. Sounds like a simple coincidence? According to a friend, towards the person you are interested in, you keep watching their every move. Therefore, unconciously, you see yourself copying their every move. It's a theory that sounds pretty convincing, so I use this technique every so often myself. BUT! there are always possibilities that this person could just simply be thirsty all the time.

I read it in some book that a person who's really good at fighting is not someone
who's good at making a beating, but someone who is not afraid to be hit.
I think it is same for relationship. Which side are you on?